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“Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously.”
2 Corinthians 9:5

Sowing and reaping…. In many ways this is what Friends of the Family is all about!

As the Lord directs, we faithfully plant seeds that He grows into healthy relationships and healthy homes across the Willamette Valley and beyond.

As we wrap up 2023, I am writing to invite you to partner with us in “sowing generously” with a special year-end gift. God has uniquely positioned this ministry to meet emotional, relational, and spiritual needs that can seem never-ending. And you can help meet these needs!

Healthy marriages require ongoing investment. But we often cannot imagine the dividends that naturally result. We need a clear vision of God’s design for marriage and opportunities to develop the relationship skills needed to thrive.

Distressed relationships demand intentional interventions. But too many of us are slow to recognize the long-term impact of neglecting our most important relationships. We may need hope that a better future is possible, guidance in healing past hurts, or help regaining lost ground and setting a healthier path forward.

Like many couples, Ben and Kari (*not their real names) had not been investing regularly in their marriage. Over the years, the distance and tension in their empty nest became unbearable. While out to dinner one night with some long-time friends, Dylan and Rose*, their distress drove them to bring up a difficult topic:

“I hope you don’t mind us saying this, but it seemed like you two were really struggling a few years ago…. Now you seem happier and more at peace together than we ever remember! What happened?”

Dylan squeezed Rose’s knee, smiled at her, then began to share their journey. First came committing to faith-centered marriage counseling with Friends of the Family – difficult work, but the breakthroughs made it all worthwhile. That was followed by attending The Third Option, an ongoing marriage education and support group, which helped them move their marriage from good to great. Their adult children even commented on how much happier they seemed together!

Hearing this, Ben and Kari decided to join their friends at The Third Option. They committed to enter in with willing hearts and open minds. And today, after several months of intentionally investing in their marriage, they feel more connected than they have in decades. And it’s only getting better!

When God is invited in, it is never too late
to change the trajectory of a marriage!

It’s always God who makes such seeds grow, but He uses Friends of the Family to reap harvests like this often. And the Lord invites each of us to use whatever is in our hands to participate in His kingdom work! We are all called to faithfully obey Him (tilling, sowing, watering, praying), then trust Him with results.

God can use you to:

  • Move marriages from good to great so they can shine brighter for Him;
  • Restore and reconcile distressed relationships;
  • Promote mental, relational, and spiritual health; and
  • Inspire and equip churches to minister to marriages more effectively.

Today, we are inviting you to give whatever year-end gift you think God would have you give toward this work. As you think and pray about it, He may even stir you to give sacrificially! Gifts of every amount make a difference.

So, what is that in your hand? A seed bag? A watering can? A checkbook? Grab it and let’s prepare the valley for a bountiful harvest of God’s transforming touch in lives and relationships in 2024.

As you participate with us in the Lord’s call on this ministry, we pray that He abundantly blesses you and your family! May He reveal Himself to you in new and special ways this holiday season and flood your home with His love, joy, and peace.

In the Lord’s service,

Dave Jackson
Executive Director

P.S.  Join us today in “sowing generously” toward a bountiful harvest in 2024!


“Ascribe to the Lord the glory due his name;
bring an offering and come into his courts.”
Psalm 96:8

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