541-757-1761 friends@fofm.org
1st and 3rd Wednesdays, 6:30 – 8:30pm
3300 NW Walnut Blvd, Corvallis
Facilitators: Vince & Angela Schwindt

What is it?

The Third Option is a skills-based group program that helps participants build stronger, more fulfilling marriages. Each 14-session cycle covers a comprehensive set of tools that couples can use to develop better understanding, sensitivity and trust while learning more effective speaking and listening skills.

Do I need to attend every session, in order?

Each session stands alone, so couples can start anytime in the cycle of topics, and catch up later if they happen to miss a week or two. We encourage couples to attend every session and many couples find it takes two or even three cycles to build their marriage to the level they seek.


  • Building a Climate of Respect (May 15)
  • Responsibility and the Blame Game (June 5)
  • Understanding Expectations (June 19)
  • Redefining the Power Struggle (July 3)
  • Coping with Control Issues (July 17)
  • Listening Beyond the Words (Aug 7)
  • Appreciating Personality Differences (Aug 21)
  • Recognizing Childhood Issues and Emotional Baggage (Sept 4)
  • Handling Anger Constructively (Sept 18)
  • Speaking the Truth in a Loving Way (Oct 2)
  • Managing Conflict in Healthy Ways (Oct 16)
  • Breaking the Hurt Cycle (Nov 6)
  • Practicing Forgiveness and Repair (Nov 20)
  • Building and Rebuilding Trust (Dec 4)

What if I have a good marriage?

The skills we develop in The Third Option are helpful for any marriage, and couples attending our program range from those on the brink of divorce to those yearning to make a good marriage even better. Many couples assume that their marriage is strong and effective, and don’t invest the time to ensure that it grows better over time. Then, all it takes is a new stress – problems with jobs, kids, parents, or health – and even the best marriage becomes frayed or unraveled. Developing the right skills and sensitivity is the best way to ensure that a good marriage grows even better.

While The Third Option classes are free to attend, a $5 donation per person per class is appreciated.